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Feb 1, 2022

Whether you're single or partnered, we all have expectations that arise on days like February 14 when there's a lot of pressure for it to go a certain way. Why not make this year different and permit yourself to plan for your own special surprise! This Valentine's day, ask directly for the experience you want to have and find yourself having way more fun.

Tune in to this episode: The #1 Key To Having a Happy Valentine's Day with Marie-Elizabeth Mali.

Key points covered in this episode:

✔️ This Valentine's, resolve to be more deliberate about creating the experience your heart desires. Whether you are single or in a relationship, don't be passive and complain when you don't have the perfect day you want. 

Suppose there's a restaurant you want to go to, an activity you want to try, or you want your partner to do a particular thing in the house — tell your partner because they can't read your mind. If you're single and want to go out and have a Friendsgiving evening, ask directly. Set it up. And then you get to have the experience you enjoy. 

✔️ Manage your expectations. Doing so doesn't mean diminishing them so that you don't get disappointed. The point is that you can participate and co-create the day you want to happen with the people you want to spend the day with. 

Invite them to surprise you and be explicit about what you want, set up the day together as a team, and then truly be open and receptive to that surprise. Make that a practice. Whatever the results are, enjoy the experience and appreciate the effort that people you love tried to give you a good time. 

✔️ Notice the little things that please you and appreciate the efforts that your loved ones show you. Begin amassing evidence that you're loved and supported, that life is for you, and that good things happen. Write down three to five appreciations a day, knowing that you are training your brain and vision to see what is working, acknowledge the good, appreciate and remember it, and have it in your arsenal when your mind forgets.  


★★★ About Marie-Elizabeth Mali ★★★

Marie-Elizabeth is the founder of Relationship Alchemy, where she helps women leaders create loving and nourishing intimate relationships that support their work in the world.



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As a Relationship Alchemist, two-time TEDx Speaker, and host of the Relationship Alchemy podcast, Marie-Elizabeth Mali shows women leaders how to cultivate deeper love and connection in their intimate relationships. Drawing on her Master’s degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and over 20 years of working with clients, she teaches women how to show up as authentic leaders in their relationships and work instead of twisting themselves to fit in. Marie-Elizabeth’s work has been featured in Thrive Global, SWAAY, and Forbes. She is also a member of the Forbes Business Council, a published author with an MFA in Poetry from Sarah Lawrence College, and an underwater photographer who has a thing for sharks. Learn more at