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Jul 5, 2022

Glasses come in different lenses, each with a purpose – from blue-light-blocking to reading to distance.

We also wear lenses through which we see our relationships. Some of us may put on lenses of abandonment. Others of fear or betrayal.

Whichever lens we choose, the lens through which we see our relationships tends to determine what happens in them.

So, which lens do you want to put on?

Tune in to this episode: Seeing Clearly In Your Relationships.

Key points covered in this episode:

✔️ Be clear about your default lenses. We wear default lenses because of our upbringing and what’s been ingrained in our nervous systems. Do your lenses serve you? You have the choice to change them.

✔️ Put on the lens of noticing the good. Through this lens, you can appreciate what’s working well in your relationship. You’ll see green flags you can be grateful for.

✔️ Grow your capacity to wear multiple lenses. A client was experiencing a difficult situation with a loved one. She was able to find another way to see the situation that was more life-affirming and had more possibility for growth in it. There’s always an opening available for change.

✔️ Changing lenses requires access to new lenses. Most of us get so wedded to a singular point of view through which we look at our relationships. Try on a new pair of lenses to see something new about your relationship… but only if you’re willing.


★★★ About Marie-Elizabeth Mali ★★★

Marie-Elizabeth is the founder of Relationship Alchemy, where she helps women awaken through their relationships.


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As a Relationship Transformation Expert, two-time TEDx Speaker, and host of the Relationship Alchemy podcast, Marie-Elizabeth Mali shows women how to cultivate deeper love and connection in their intimate relationships. Drawing on her Master’s degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and over 20 years of working with clients, she teaches women how to show up as authentic leaders in their relationships and work instead of twisting themselves to fit in. Marie-Elizabeth’s work has been featured in Thrive Global, SWAAY, and Forbes. She is also a member of the Forbes Business Council, a published author with an MFA in Poetry from Sarah Lawrence College, and an underwater photographer who has a thing for sharks. Learn more at