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Jul 19, 2022

My partner Patrick and I were recently interviewed on a relationship podcast.

On the show, he highlights three questions that he asks himself whenever we get into conflict.

And I was so impressed with how he laid them out that I felt like it would be great to share them with you today – so you too can have better conflicts that bring you and your partner closer.

Tune in to this episode: A Quick Way To Navigate Conflict.

Key points covered in this episode:

✔️ The relationship is its own entity. The union between you and your partner is a separate being. It has its own existence calling for your attention and care.

✔️ Conflicts are caused by a suppressed issue. Conflicts aren’t ignited by what set off the fight. They’re usually started by something swept under the rug, piling up over time, erupting with the proper stimulus.

✔️ “What do I need?” Step away from the conflict for a moment. Settle yourself before addressing it. Get a bite to eat. Take a nap. Take a walk. Whatever it takes to resource yourself more fully. Then, you can return to the issue with a more open heart.

✔️ “What does the relationship need?” Pay attention to what it’s calling for. It may be your way, their way, or something completely different. Whatever it may be – it should be the way that benefits your connection.

✔️ “What does my partner need?” But don’t just carelessly throw the question. The tone matters most. Ask it from a place of curiosity, not condemnation.


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Marie-Elizabeth is the founder of Relationship Alchemy, where she helps women awaken through their relationships.


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As a Relationship Transformation Expert, two-time TEDx Speaker, and host of the Relationship Alchemy podcast, Marie-Elizabeth Mali shows women how to cultivate deeper love and connection in their intimate relationships. Drawing on her Master’s degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and over 20 years of working with clients, she teaches women how to show up as authentic leaders in their relationships and work instead of twisting themselves to fit in. Marie-Elizabeth’s work has been featured in Thrive Global, SWAAY, and Forbes. She is also a member of the Forbes Business Council, a published author with an MFA in Poetry from Sarah Lawrence College, and an underwater photographer who has a thing for sharks. Learn more at